What is Ho’oponopono?
Have you ever noticed that when there’s a problem, you’re always there?
That’s because you’re a part of the problem.
The world is a mirror, reflecting back to you what you believe about yourself and the world around you.
You create your own reality, so if you see somebody being negative, that means that on some level you’re creating that judgment and therefore creating that experience.
You’re projecting it into the world and it’s being reflected back to you through that person.
Reflection is being given to you to show you what you’re actually projecting so you can heal it inside of you.
If you don’t agree to the premise that they are negative, then you don’t affirm your reality for that.
They are negative only if you interpret them as negative.
As you change your perception of them, you shift to a reality where they’re not negative.
Your Beliefs Create Your Reality
So, trying to change and heal that person is like trying to put your makeup on by looking in the mirror, but putting the makeup on the mirror.
Instead of trying to change others, you have to look at yourself, and question beliefs that you hold about yourself and others.
It’s easier to point to other people, but this is not about guilt or blame – it’s about personal empowerment and awakening. When you take your power back and realize that what you’re seeing is actually an indicator of what you believe, you will be able to change your belief and it will get you different results.
This is where coaching can help because you have somebody outside of your mental belief system, to help you see what you’re believing in the moment (consciously and subconsciously), so it can be released and healed.
There is also a powerful healing technique that you can do on your own.
It’s called Ho’oponopono.
What is Ho’oponopono and how it can help you?
Ho’oponopono means to make it right. Essentially, it means to make it right with the ancestors or to make it right with the people with whom you have relationships.
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian forgiveness technique and a self-healing practice. It is founded by a doctor that was studying mental patients, and it is one of the most effective spiritual healing techniques.
Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len used this technique to help heal an entire ward of mentally ill criminals in Hawaii, where he worked for four years.
He didn’t try to change the patients because their therapists had already tried that and it didn’t work. At that point, the patients were being sedated and shackled. Nothing was working.
So, what did he do?
He said that all he did was clean on his perceptions of what he saw.
He reviewed each of the patients’ files and felt whatever emotion came up – repulsion, anger, or shame. He didn’t try to heal the patients, only the feeling that was keeping him from the clarity of the moment.
He repeated the four phrases internally, saying them over and over again.
I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
As he kept doing that, the patients started to get better.
What we think is out there is actually inside us
Instead of him trying to change the patients, he changed the perception he had of them because he realized he was creating them through his beliefs.
Everything is a reflection and what he realized is if he changed his perception of them, they would heal.
It’s not about correcting other people. It’s about correcting your perceptions of everything you see outside.
So, we’re not trying to heal the other. We are clearing up a program, a perception, a limiting belief within ourselves.
This is why Ho’oponopono is so powerful – because you’re taking 100% responsibility and saying, “Okay, it isn’t that person in the traffic, it isn’t my employer, it isn’t anybody on the outside. They’re just reflecting what’s in me and has to be healed.”
We create our experiences with different people based upon our interpretation of them. With Ho’oponopono, we take our power back and we change on the inside which then changes them.
This is a shift in consciousness. We begin to shift our awareness of who they are because they are a reflection of what we believe.
Our judgment and beliefs that someone else is doing something to us, create disruptions in our energy field, and then we continue to experience a reality that is reflective of these disruptions we have.
When we use Ho’oponopono we begin to heal. As we change our perception we transform on the inside out.
If you want to heal anything on the outside you must first heal your judgment of it on the inside.
I AM SORRY
When you say I am sorry you’re realizing that even if you’re saying I am sorry for something someone else did, there is no someone else. That someone else you’re creating from your own interpretation. It’s your judgment, your belief that creates a disturbance.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME
When you say please forgive me, you’re actually saying please forgive my interpretation of it. Forgiveness is the key to all healing.
You forgive other people not because they deserve your forgiveness but because you choose to not feel those emotions anymore.
When you say thank you, you’re saying everything is perfect the way it is. I don’t judge myself now. The vibration of gratitude is powerful.
I LOVE YOU
I love you is recognition that love is all there is. We are all connected.
Everything, in reality, is a reflection of the one.
How to do Ho’oponopono?
Bring to mind a memory or a person with whom you don’t have a great relationship. Set the intention to heal this within you, and then repeat these 4 phrases over and over again.
I am Sorry.
Please forgive me.
I love you.
We’re not saying these phrases to somebody else. We say it inside ourselves to our connection with everything that is.
We’re saying, “Please erase this program within me,” not, “erase it in that person.”
These 4 phrases will help you to shift your vibration. You’ll begin to heal within yourself and also heal your relationship with others. It is a way to change your vibrational frequency and to let go of things that no longer serve you.
This Ho’oponopono meditation is a great place to start.
Do it every day for at least 21 days and watch how your life begins to change.
If you have any questions, let me know in the comments below.