How To Let Go?
It has become very popular to say „Let it go“ or „Just let go…“ but nobody is telling you how to let go.
When we don’t believe in a positive outcome we have a need for control.
We let go of control by choosing to believe in a positive outcome.
How To Start Believing In a Positive Outcome?
We always believe in something so when we don’t believe in a positive outcome, it’s not that we lack belief. It’s that instead of believing in a positive outcome, we believe in a negative outcome.
When we believe in a negative outcome, we have a completely different set of thoughts and emotions, and we take completely different actions if we take them at all, and that then leads to a negative outcome.
So in order to get a positive outcome, we first have to choose to believe in a positive outcome.
Our emotions are indicators of our beliefs.
When we feel negative emotions, it means that there are limiting beliefs hiding behind them.
Positive emotions are indicators of empowering and supporting beliefs.
There are no good or bad emotions. Emotions are our compass, that’s what they are.
Emotions show us our position on an emotional scale at any given moment, and if we follow our emotions, we know exactly when we are on the right path and when we need to change our direction.
When you feel negative emotion, ask yourself „What must I believe in order to feel this way?“
When you get the answer, ask yourself „Is that true? Am I completely sure that this is true?“
Find opposite examples that will show you and confirm that your limiting beliefs are not true.
Why Is It So Hard To Let Go?
The primary purpose of your mind is to protect you. In order to keep you safe, it imagines the worst-case scenarios so it is prepared in advance.
In order to maintain control over circumstances, your mind is creating resistance to anything that is unknown.
It’s like, „if I relax and become fun and playful, I might become careless and inattentive, and then I will have to face the consequences… so it’s better to be careful and alert.“
But you can’t control the circumstances, and with this attitude instead of creating a positive outcome, you can only create a negative outcome.
Your mind is designed to protect you, and not necessarily to support you. The mind is limited, it can’t see the bigger picture. It’s up to you to quiet your mind, make it believe that it is safe, and start trusting in a positive outcome.
When we trust in a positive outcome, we know it will come true, so we don’t have the need for control.
If we keep noticing that results are not present, it means that we still haven’t let go of control.
When we doubt, then we don’t believe in a positive outcome. And when we don’t believe in a positive outcome, it means that we believe in a negative outcome, because we always believe in something.
If we have conflicted beliefs and then one day we believe in a positive outcome, and the other day we believe in a negative outcome, we are sending contradictory messages to God or Universe.
Ask yourself „Where is this doubt coming from? Is it from my past experiences? Or is it from others’ past experiences? Have I already accomplished something similar? Is there somebody who has already achieved this? What are my strengths? What are my successes?“
Ask yourself different questions to help you change your focus and allow you to start believing in a positive outcome.
There is one more thing that is very effective. Imagine yourself in a situation where the positive outcome has already been achieved.
How do you feel now when you know that you have achieved what you wanted?
This is an emotion that you want to feel as often as possible. Embrace that feeling as if it is your natural state. It will help you expand your trust in the positive outcome.
Once you start believing in the positive outcome, it will be much easier for you to let go of control because you will know that it is just a matter of time for it to come true. And whether this time will be shorter or longer, depends on the time you need for letting go of control.
The only thing that is preventing you from achieving what you want is a control that you are still holding onto.
Letting go is not a process. It is understanding that by letting go you are not losing control over your circumstances because you have never had control over the circumstances. Control is a tool that your mind is using when in doubt, and it creates resistance to change. To let go is to replace doubt with trust. That way you are removing resistance and at the same time, you are allowing God or Universe to guide you and to act through you because it already knows what’s the best for you.