5 Ways to Kill Your Dreams Before They Come True

Whatever your dreams are in life, you can achieve them if you believe so, but you have to be aware of 5 ways to kill your dreams before they come true.  Every dream has challenges, but these 5 things are likely to prevent you from accomplishing your dream.

1. Fear

Fear is the number one dream destroyer! If you allow it, it will stop you from moving forward in achieving your goals.

Fear is a projection of your mind. Your mind is not designed to make you happy, it is designed to help you survive and therefore it will make up different excuses just to keep you in the known and predictable place. In order to keep you safe, it will try to turn you away from your intention of making any kind of change.

conquer fearNo one has conquered fear by walking away from it, so instead of avoiding fear, learn to manage it and act towards your goals in spite of your fear.

“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start getting excited about what could go right.”        – Tony Robbins

2. Taking Advice from People who Accomplished Less then You Want to Accomplish

Every person has their own belief system about what is possible and what is not. If they believe something is not possible for them, it is likely they will believe it is not possible for you either. Given their perception of possibility, people are likely to suggest you lower your goals to something that sounds reasonable to them.

People who have already achieved success or people who are currently pursuing success in their own lives have the belief systems that doubters and naysayers do not possess, so if you need advice ask them for it.

3. Sharing Your Goals with Everyone

When you make a commitment to follow your goals and share them with others, your mind will lead you to the completion of your goals.

But, choose wisely who will you share your goals with! While your goal is still in its early stages, you have to make sure you don’t share it with people who are not likely to support you, because it can kill your enthusiasm and plant a seed of doubt, which can lead you to failure.

There are people who will try to turn you away from your goals for different reasons…

People who don’t pursue their own goals may suggest your goals are not likely to come to fruition. It might be because they don’t believe you can do it or because they are afraid that you will be more successful than they are, so they will try to keep you down.

Keep your goals from people who are critical, because critics often lead to procrastination. Even if you’re a confident person, you need to protect your goal while it is still in its early stages.

4. Doubt

Believe in your dreamsThe old saying goes: “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will”. Many people doubt themselves and expect to fail before they even try. When you doubt, you are preparing yourself for a failure because your mind believes that your dreams are impossible to achieve.

Doubt can turn you away from your objectives, which can cause you to choose the wrong path or even to give up. So, in order to achieve your goals, it is necessary for you to believe in yourself. When you believe, anything becomes possible.

5. Having a “Plan B”

Even if it looks like a good option to have a “plan B” in case if your primary goal failed, it could point your mind in an opposite direction.

When we create our goals, there’s usually a part of us that mentally makes room for an escape route because we don’t truly believe that we can succeed, and then we start thinking of the possibility of failing. Then we either give up or make a “plan B” just in case… and that’s often when we set ourselves up to fail.

Plan BLet me explain that… To accomplish what you want, your mind needs a clear direction. If you have an “Option A” and “Option B”, it means that you are not clear on what you want or that you doubt that you will succeed with your “Option A”.

So, do you think that your mind will be equally committed to accomplishing your goal as if it’s pointed to just one direction? No, it won’t, because it is not clear what you want and how bad you want it.

For example, if you tend to eat unhealthy food and now you want to change your diet and start eating healthy, there’s no such an option as buying unhealthy food. If you keep buying unhealthy food, your mind will take you where it used to take you and if there is, for example, an apple and a biscuit, it will persuade you to take a biscuit…

Tony Robbins often use the old saying “If you want to take the island, then burn your boats.” “It’s because people, when they’re gonna either die or succeed tend to succeed.” – he says.

This saying originated from the ancient Greeks. When the warriors arrived on enemy shores, they would receive an order to burn their boats, so they had no way of retreating. This “succeed or die” mentality led them towards victory.

An “Option B” can protect us from pain, but it also can reduce our focus and commitment as well as the effort that we put into a process. Once you have decided to pursue your goal, you must be willing to burn the boats behind you and trust the process.

Always Remember…

If you can dream itIf you have a dream, don’t be afraid to go after it. Life is too short to settle for less. Just be aware of these 5 things that can easily stop you from your progress. And always remember – If you can dream it, you can do it!

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”    — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

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12 comments

  1. I am going to bookmark this page and use this for motivation. I have gone through all 5 of these phases at some point in my life for most things I want to accomplish.

  2. You know, these definitely are ways to kill your dreams. The biggest killer I think, is taking advice from people who have accomplished less than what you want to. I try to take advice from like minded people, go getters, people who go after their dreams, as they tend to push me more. Great article!

    1. I totally agree if you need advice take it from achievers and from those who have already accomplished that what you want to accomplish. All the best!

  3. I’ve read quite a few books about self-improvement, and this is an excellent summation of everything I’ve read so far. Great little read and I encourage anyone interested in this to take more time to learn about and become the best version of themselves.

  4. This is an absolutely great article. I can totally relate to what is being shared here.
    It is so true that fear, doubt, and a Plan B may be the hurdles to success that prevents one from getting to the next level in your desires and commitments.
    I’ve also learned to be selective about who I’m sharing my goals with. Some will support you and some will openly doubt your goals. I choose positive energy in my life and therefore choose to surround me with positive people. …they are likely to support you.
    Thanks for sharing.

  5. Hi Blanka,
    great article. I like the words and thoughts of Paulo Coelho. My problem was the doubt that I had chosen the wrong path sometimes. Now I think differently and I know that much effort and work brings results and fulfillment of desire. If you have a true desire, never give up.
    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Hi Maja,

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting on the post. I agree, clarity of intention and working towards your goal will eventually bring you results and fulfillment. All the best!

  6. Hey Blanka, thank you for this. It reminded me that I have been a victim of all of them, whether separately or all together. All we are until we realize. Until we find the roadmap and we find someone like you to say what to do about these dreams killers…
    And then everything is better, and things change.
    Your site is pure motivation!

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