Whatever your dreams are in life, you can achieve them if you believe so, but you have to be aware of 5 ways to kill your dreams before they come true. Every dream has challenges, but these 5 things are likely to prevent you from accomplishing your dream.
Fear is the number one dream destroyer! If you allow it, it will stop you from moving forward in achieving your goals.
Fear is a projection of your mind. Your mind is not designed to make you happy, it is designed to help you survive and therefore it will make up different excuses just to keep you in the known and predictable place. In order to keep you safe, it will try to turn you away from your intention of making any kind of change.
No one has conquered fear by walking away from it, so instead of avoiding fear, learn to manage it and act towards your goals in spite of your fear.
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start getting excited about what could go right.” – Tony Robbins
2. Taking Advice from People who Accomplished Less then You Want to Accomplish
Every person has their own belief system about what is possible and what is not. If they believe something is not possible for them, it is likely they will believe it is not possible for you either. Given their perception of possibility, people are likely to suggest you lower your goals to something that sounds reasonable to them.
People who have already achieved success or people who are currently pursuing success in their own lives have the belief systems that doubters and naysayers do not possess, so if you need advice ask them for it.
3. Sharing Your Goals with Everyone
When you make a commitment to follow your goals and share them with others, your mind will lead you to the completion of your goals.
But, choose wisely who will you share your goals with! While your goal is still in its early stages, you have to make sure you don’t share it with people who are not likely to support you, because it can kill your enthusiasm and plant a seed of doubt, which can lead you to failure.
There are people who will try to turn you away from your goals for different reasons…
People who don’t pursue their own goals may suggest your goals are not likely to come to fruition. It might be because they don’t believe you can do it or because they are afraid that you will be more successful than they are, so they will try to keep you down.
Keep your goals from people who are critical, because critics often lead to procrastination. Even if you’re a confident person, you need to protect your goal while it is still in its early stages.
The old saying goes: “Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will”. Many people doubt themselves and expect to fail before they even try. When you doubt, you are preparing yourself for a failure because your mind believes that your dreams are impossible to achieve.
Doubt can turn you away from your objectives, which can cause you to choose the wrong path or even to give up. So, in order to achieve your goals, it is necessary for you to believe in yourself. When you believe, anything becomes possible.
5. Having a “Plan B”
Even if it looks like a good option to have a “plan B” in case if your primary goal failed, it could point your mind in an opposite direction.
When we create our goals, there’s usually a part of us that mentally makes room for an escape route because we don’t truly believe that we can succeed, and then we start thinking of the possibility of failing. Then we either give up or make a “plan B” just in case… and that’s often when we set ourselves up to fail.
Let me explain that… To accomplish what you want, your mind needs a clear direction. If you have an “Option A” and “Option B”, it means that you are not clear on what you want or that you doubt that you will succeed with your “Option A”.
So, do you think that your mind will be equally committed to accomplishing your goal as if it’s pointed to just one direction? No, it won’t, because it is not clear what you want and how bad you want it.
For example, if you tend to eat unhealthy food and now you want to change your diet and start eating healthy, there’s no such an option as buying unhealthy food. If you keep buying unhealthy food, your mind will take you where it used to take you and if there is, for example, an apple and a biscuit, it will persuade you to take a biscuit…
Tony Robbins often use the old saying “If you want to take the island, then burn your boats.” “It’s because people, when they’re gonna either die or succeed tend to succeed.” – he says.
This saying originated from the ancient Greeks. When the warriors arrived on enemy shores, they would receive an order to burn their boats, so they had no way of retreating. This “succeed or die” mentality led them towards victory.
An “Option B” can protect us from pain, but it also can reduce our focus and commitment as well as the effort that we put into a process. Once you have decided to pursue your goal, you must be willing to burn the boats behind you and trust the process.
If you have a dream, don’t be afraid to go after it. Life is too short to settle for less. Just be aware of these 5 things that can easily stop you from your progress. And always remember – If you can dream it, you can do it!
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” — Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
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